i’m depressed that i’m fat…no wait…i fat because i’m depressed

I wanted to ask the question to those who are willing to talk about it….do you think that you are depressed because you are overweight or do you think your depression has led you to being overweight?  As more and more members join buddyslim and the more i dive into the history of some of my buddies i already have, i am noticing an increasing rate of us who have show signs of depression.  Some of us probably won’t admit that they may have depression they think they are just sad.

I was diagnosed with being bipolar and having manic depression.  I refused to take any type of medicine because i refuse to except that i am depressed i think i’m just dealing with life.  I am learning to better control my rage and when i get down, i just let the tears come as they may.  i think crying is healthy, it actually makes me feel better…sometimes.  Usually if i’m down i will watch movies that make me cry just so my tears will be about something other than my self.  But if i find that i am locking myself away for longer than a day i make it an effort to tell someone.  usually talking helps me out.

i know there are others who can’t deal with their sadness or depression like the way that i do and medical treatment is the best way to go.

Of course you know me i found some articles linking obesity and depression…i’ll post a small segment here and add a link for the rest of the articles.   I want to know what your opinions about this is..

Obesity And Depression May Be Linked

People who are obese may be more likely to become depressed because they experience themselves as in poor health and are dissatisfied with their appearance. This occurrence was particularly prevalent among women and those of high socio-economic status.

People who are depressed may be more likely to become obese because of physiological changes in their hormone and immune systems that occur in depression. Also, they have more difficulty taking good care of themselves because of symptoms and consequences of depression, such as difficulty adhering to fitness regiments, overeating, and having negative thoughts.

Treatments such as exercise and stress reduction can help to manage both obesity and depression at the same time. Potentially, dieting, which can worsen mood, and antidepressants, which can cause weight gain, should be minimized.

for the full article click here.  from this page are some other related articles.

18 Comments so far

  1. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    I’ll start first since i posed the question…i think that i’m overweight due to my depression. I remember a time when I was truly happy with my life. I got into a stage when i didnt care what people thought…even me. The self love was fading quick. So I let not only my weight fall to the wayside but a lot of things I neglected. Yet i also feel my depression is the reason i’m trying to lose weight. Like I said I refuse to accept the diseases…the depression and obesity…I know that losing this weight will help me feel better about myself mentally and physically.

  2. LittleFlower @ February 8th, 2010

    Heya, I think it’s 6 of one, half a dozen of the other to be honest. Being overweight is linked socially with lower selfesteem. Lower self-esteem is linked with depression. However, low levels of seratonin or poor seratonin reuptake at receptors at the level of the brain has also been linked with emotional eating and being over weight. Establishing cause and effect is pretty much impossible in most cases. It’s something I’m looking forward to looking into in more detail in my course.

    With depression though, I have 1st hand experience of how debilitating it is and how helpful antidepressants are in some cases. I started feeling depressed when I was 11 or 12 years old. My parents put it down to me just being moody and being a teenager. But it was debilitating then and went on to get much worse. I stayed in when everyone else of my friends went out. i excelled in school because I prefered to be alone with my books than socialise. I gained weight because I comfort ate (now I know that was due to my home environment and seratonin levels in my brain). Then I went to college and I remained depressed. I was able to cope with it by exercising excessively, which only led to exercise-type bulimia.

    It was only last year I had to accept that I could not deal with the depression alone. I was suicidal, drinking to excess, binge eating. I went to my doctor and went on antidepressants. i’m not exagerating when I say they saved my life. 7 months of medication took the “cloud” out of my head and I was able to appreciate my life more. I am thankful I had a doctor who was quick to see how bad I was and who kept tabs on me. She showed me that the depression I was experiencing was due to seratonin levels in my brain, and these levels just had to be regulated. She assured me that after 7 months of feeling “normal” I would be able to handle the ups and downs better. And she was right.

    I have absolutely no problem, in the future, if I feel as bad again, to go back on antidepressants for a short while. I think for somepeople, they’re life savers. They were for me.

  3. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    Thanks for sharing your story. i thank God that I have not progressed to the state where medication is a must for me. I still talk to my counselor and so far she has not recommended antidepressants. She did at first and I refused them but she hasnt again over the past 14 years.

  4. malindacg @ February 8th, 2010

    i really dont know in my case. i think in my case its both. i didnt start gaining weight till i was in high school. i notice my self esteem going down hill since high school too. but it wasnt high school, it was family. my sister would call me names, my family would laugh at me whn i would exercise with thm, my mom criticize the way i even danced. whn i had an idea it was always stupid. so i started to withdrawl frm my family and stay to myself. i wouldnt exercise around thm, then i just didnt exercise at all. i guess thts y i dont enjoy it. im always self conscious about how i look and wht ppl think. my self esteem has gone downhill ever since. whn ur constantly surround by negitive ppl and there comments, it doesnt build up but tear u down more. whn ur constantly being told u will never lose weight “so go eat ur cookies” how does tht help a person who suffer frm depresion to get up and lose weight. i was depressed so i ate…now im depressed bc im gaining. i have been told tht was yrs ago get over it. its not something i can get over. bc the negative comments are always in my head. im trained to tell myself i cant do this. like i said in someone elses blog…im a pessimist when it comes to myself. but im an optimist whn it comes to others. i can cheer u on and say something nice to others but i dont c it happening for me. so to b honest i think its both in my case. im working on building my esteem up. but i dont see it changing any time soon.

  5. mika @ February 8th, 2010

    i think i am like you P. i never thought about my weight until i had my first child and saw a picture of myself… i was like EEWWW!! is that me?? and i couldnt say it was baby weight.. so back and forth i went, trying to lose weight.. i would get to a point where i would be like F-it, i am just gonna be fat. but that was not me.. and its not me today, even though from time to time i would say those words. its just easier to be fat…

    just the other day i was thinking to myself.. i have always thought of myslef as being sexy.. ever since high school. but for the past 10+ years, that has faded. my self esteem has gone way down. and the only way to get the TRUE MIKA back is to say F-it and just do it. Work out no matter how i feel. i want to look at myself and say DAMN!! you are back and sexy as ever.. it will also be a plus to hear my husband say those words also.

    so… i am depressed because i am overweight….

  6. mika @ February 8th, 2010

    i think i am like you P. i never thought about my weight until i had my first child and saw a picture of myself… i was like EEWWW!! is that me?? and i couldnt say it was baby weight.. so back and forth i went, trying to lose weight.. i would get to a point where i would be like F-it, i am just gonna be fat. but that was not me.. and its not me today, even though from time to time i would say those words. its just easier to be fat…

    just the other day i was thinking to myself.. i have always thought of myslef as being sexy.. ever since high school. but for the past 10+ years, that has faded. my self esteem has gone way down. and the only way to get the TRUE MIKA back is to say F-it and just do it. Work out no matter how i feel. i want to look at myself and say DAMN!! you are back and sexy as ever.. it will also be a plus to hear my husband say those words also.

    so… i am depressed because i am overweight….

  7. sandy1969 @ February 8th, 2010

    I never really thought of myself as depressed, although I have been over weight my whole life. Its not like I had a “skinny” life and then got fat, I grew into this. I think you can do all kinds of harmful things to yourself during depression, not just eat.

    I dont think I have times when I eat because I am sad, I eat for satisfaction yes. I love the taste of foods. I’d really have to delve into it to ask myself why exactly I find foods so tastey, cant they just be tastey? I dunno.

    What I really wanted to share was this. About 5-6 years ago I looked into getting gastric bypass surgery. In fact the only thing stopping me was my insurance company. I had initially called them, they told me as long as I got a note from the Dr saying it was medically necessary they’d cover it. So I got a Dr. appointment, I was the idea candidate physically. I was the right weight, I was not on any medications, I was the healthiest fat candidate possible, if that makes sense.

    So THEN…part of the process is you have to go see a shrink to see if you will be able to handle the changes in your life afterwards. They gave me a 250 question survey/test to take. Answer it as truthfully as I could. On it were questions like…When you walk into a room do you worry about what people think? Ummm..yeah??? Do you feel uncomfortable in situations you cant control? Ummm….yeah???? HELLO, Im fat!

    What if I have to do something I cant do because of my weight, and why do you think I want the surgery to start with dummies…I want to be ABLE to do those things.

    The test goes on and on asking me questions like that, rewording the same types of things. By the time it was over the doctor that gave me the test informs me….drum roll… Im paranoid. *blink*

    I thought that was the most stupid thing Id ever been put through in my life. To take a test that confirmed my fears of being fat in today’s society and having to do all the fun stuff people do, only do it in my fat body thats holding me back. And now, beacuse I am uncomfortable in my huge skin about interacting with all the skinny people in the world, IM also paranoid. So if I wasnt depressed before, I shoulda been then! Great now paranoid and depressed…lol. Oh to make it even better at the time I was having gallbladder attacks and i was SO sick, but I waited to have my gallbladder removed until I went through all this so I could have it done all at one time. So I spent weeks being very sick, waiting.

    So after all that the insurance company denied me the gastric bypass, not because of the test, it denied ever saying if I had a note from the Dr they would consider it, case closed.

    Sorry if I got off the depression topic a little bit, just wanted to maybe throw something in there other people might have felt or been accused of feeling because of their weight that maybe lead them to being depressed.

  8. Leida @ February 8th, 2010

    I had times in my life when being big didn’t make me feel low. I don’t think I have exactly been depressed, as in showing clinical signs of it. I think by nature I am too much in love with life to truly feel like killing myself. But being big was consistently put front and centre as my flaw since before my adolescence, and when I could not control my weight, I feel like a ‘bad’ person, who has no backbone. That’s definetly a reason to feel low. I did learn in my early twenties to divorce food from comfort, but i don’t think one can achieve 100% victory in this. So, I am always on the look-out for other means to cope with feeling low because I am fat. And with feeling fat. I think this ‘feeling fat’ is what triggers the whole swarm of unworthy thoughts and gets me to feel low. SOmetimes I wish they banned mirrors.

  9. joy @ February 8th, 2010

    I am on depression medicine and so is my daughter. With her, I think depression plays a part in it. With me, I got depressed and heavy after menopause. So, that’s what our story it. Depression runs very deep on Mom’s side of the family as her dad committed suicide. And my brother tried 5 times, my sister once tried. I don’t have it as bad as they do thank God for that. But I can sure relate to what you are talking about for sure. In my opinion, there is a correlation but not necessarily is weight a cause.

  10. Dit73 @ February 8th, 2010

    It’s a really good question, I would say I was more down when I was young and fit than I am now.
    I know my family has issues with food because we need to keep plenty in our houses. Probably because we went from homemade strawberry tarts to one meal a day of tomato soup and pasta.
    My other issue is part of me wants to be thinner, part of me doesn`t. I am losing weight to keep my artificial hip longer and stress off my knees. I associate how I am now with happiness. Hows that for ironic.

  11. SAMARAM23 @ February 8th, 2010

    I am not depressed because of my weight. I am more upset at the fact that I had lacked the motivation to stop the problem before it got out of hand. Know I am finding the motivation in my faults. I have realized that my faults are now my motivation because I love myself enough to make success out of my short comings

  12. micahtexas @ February 8th, 2010

    i am overweight because i never learned how to eat properly. I have overweight every since i have been in elementry school.Its not something i gained quickly. I think most people arent overweight because of depression. Not that there arent people out ther with depression problems but i think its more of we have a fast food society.

  13. ARIZONACUTE1 @ February 8th, 2010

    GOOD QUESTIONS… I THINK THAT THERE ARE MANY REASONS THAT I AM OVER WEIGHT. DEPRESSION MAY PLAY A PART IN IT. LOW SELF ESTEEM, NOT EVERY BEING TAUGHT HOW TO TAKE PRIDE IN MYSELF AND BE HAPPY WITH WHO I AM. WHEN I WAS IN 6TH GRADE I HAD AN AUNTIE THAT LIVED WITH ME AND SHE WAS THE SAME SIZE AS ME EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS GROWN… WE SHARED CLOTHING AND I HAD NOR A GOOD OR BAD THOUGHT OF MY SIZE… UNTIL MY MOTHER TOLD ME THAT I WAS GETTING TO BIG AND IF I GOT ANY BIGGER THE SHE WOULD NOT BUY ME ANY SCHOOL CLOTHING AND I DID GET BIGGER AND I DIDN’T GET ANY CLOTHING FOR THAT SCHOOL YEAR. THAT WAS THE FIRST TIME I REALLY LOOKED AT MY SELF AS FAT. AND WHAT MAKES ME LAUGH IS I AM AROUND THE SAME SIZE NOW AS I WAS THEN. AT MY MAX WEIGHT I WAS 300 POUNDS AND THAT IS WHEN I GOT TIRED OF WHAT I HAD BECOME. I DECIDED TO PUT EVERYTHING OUT OF MY HEAD THAT WAS REPEATING IN MY HEAD AND LOSS THE WEIGTH. I GOT DOWN TO 180 AS MY LOWEST BEFORE I HAD MY BABY AND NOW I WANT TO GET BACK THERE. I THINK ALOT OF THING AND PEOPLE HAVE CONTRIBUTED TO MY WEIGHT GAIN AND LOSS. BUT KNOW MATTER WHAT THE THINGS ARE IM GOING TO PUSH ON AND GET TO MY GOAL WEIGHT.

  14. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    Thank you to all who answered. its enlightening for me to see a different spectrum.

    @mika i knew we were sistas from another mother we have too much in common girl.

    @leida depression is not all about wanting to kill yourself. my diagnosis is homicidal tendencies not suicidal. my doc explained it that i am angry at myself so i lash out at others in a violent way. im personally am terrified of death so suicide has never been my issue.

  15. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    @Sandy i just sent you a message, stay away from the questionnaires at the docs that was the start of my diagnosis, lol.

    @joy i’m glad that you and your daughter took the step to get the medical attention before it was too late.

  16. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    @dit its funny you should say that. i’m like mika i always thought i was “sexy” so i didnt necessarily want to lose weight either but when my health became hindered then i had to re-evaluate my habits. i liked being “thick” i finally had boobs and rump.

    @Samara kudos. i think i get upset when i know i’m not trying. i know how to workout but my effort sways and then i get that what the hell girl mood because i know i can take better control.

  17. poetry4lyf @ February 8th, 2010

    @micah….for me i don’t think eating properly was too much of an issue. i ate everything back in the day and i was 105 pounds for years. its when i got into my i dont care mode that i packed on the pounds. i still ate the same foods as before but how i ate it was my issue. i would lay in the bed and eat, and i dont mean propped up. i can lay down and not choke. i would skip meals and then try to get it all in one. things like that threw off my metabolism and made it harder for me to maintain that 105.

  18. Jubilee @ May 28th, 2010

    I’m depressed because I’m fat. In high school and college I was described as too skinny. Now I’m 5′4″ and 190 pounds. I get so discouraged and upset with myself. There seems to be so many excuses for me to use. Now I’m afraid for my physical health. I’m recently engaged and would love to loose weight so I could look even better for the man in my life (and for myself of course). I just don’t know what to do.

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